Chill with her, get your dick licked, but don't make this anything serious. Be polite to the bartender and friendly to anyone with whom you interact. Before I tell you what my experience about them has been, I gotta preface it by saying that there are, of course exceptions to any person in any profession. I was able to see this Friday that two other guys are doing similar things and she is playing with each one the same way. Bartenders are charming and have mastered small talk. I love my job, love my life, live my lady.
And since they have drubks hitting on them all the time, they tend to have big egos even if there really is nothing to warant it. So my list of the chick bartender traits is by no means definitive. Pros: Always had laundry quarters and never had to go to the cash machine. Except maybe strippers, uh, I mean dancers. Tells me she has to go but will be at another station in the bar.
Shame on you for Brand bashing…. First you're a douche and this girl can do 100x better. Lady parts are tingling all around, and Mr. What if she has a great career but doing it as a side job? Pro tip: If the bar has a corner, sit there. Depending on the bar she works at, she'll be working the night shift 5+ days a week.
Seriously, would you trust these people? Because bartenders depend on tips, your date will likely treat other people in the service industry well. I never dated a bartender, but this in the internet and dammit I am going to give my opinion. The man needs to make a living, so let him give a little smile here and there. Complaints about co-workers, patrons, money, family, friends, friends' kids, you name it. Women are most attracted to men who can make them feel turned on via their personality. Maybe she wanted more convo or wanted to go home that night, who knows. Mostly, but to play devil's advocate there are some kinds of jobs that require a certain personality to succeed in.
A couple weeks ago, I wanted to pick up the bartender at my local bar, so I decided to conduct a social experiment and see what would happen. Others want to own their own establishments. When you do they will look like they are a hungover and b exhausted. Then you will eat out and they will leave a crap tip because their tips are crap. If the bar has a poor backbar they will be depressed and listless for the rest of your evening.
To stand out from that, you need to make her feel sexually attracted to you and then pursue her with confidence. So he gets a lot of attention. From your experience, what went wrong? The bartender can be used as an expert for pairing your drink with your food, an adjudicator in playful arguments, or worst case scenario as security. Picking up female bartenders is actually quite easy because most guys do it wrong. On the other hand, I'm sure they develop great skill at deflecting unwanted propositions, so unless they are already disposed to play the field or cheat, they're no more likely to cheat than anyone else.
Bartenders are a charming, talented creative breed…. If it's a non-committed non-exclusive relationship for lack of better term you're after, then why not. It's hard not to have that leak into your mindset outside of your job. Bartenders are used to taking care of customers, even anticipating their tastes and desires. She'll usually get Sundays or Mondays off, which really doesn't do you much good if you are looking to go out on the town together. Also, 5 years later, that woman is still a bartender.
No bartender wants to be told your a bartender, Just pay cash and drop a big tip and I know your in the industry and will give you the expected respect! Always be friendly to the group, but engage with her the most to make sure she knows she is the target, not her friends. I knew tons of people who ended up with back injuries that caused longterm issues. Was that a once-off mould-breaking offense or is there more to be said on the role of the male versus female bartender? Take a risk and start doing what you actually love to do. I was a bartender when I met my husband, and continued to do it full-time during our engagement and then part-time a year or two into our marriage. I learnt a lot from the section you guys did on picking up female bartenders, especially listening to how Stu uses confident, but quite bold humor to get their attention.