There comes a time,when you need to allow your teens to mature,and make some decisions on their own. My sister and I have talked about this so many times as adults and parents now, and that is what we have vowed to do for our kids. Zach will be listed on the sex offender registry until 2040. But I never thought at that busy point in my life that I would one day want to remember all those things. Not everyone is going out at her age, and a movie is not necessarily the best place for a first date. California statutory rape law is violated when a person has consensual sexual intercourse with an individual under age 18 who is not their spouse. We as parents have a right to be all up in our kids business and it can be done in a discrete way.
You're both at very different stages in life. After all, what is dating for? I am not trying to scare you, but telling you that you are a good mom and should be thinking wisely about this decision. I feel like God is trying to show me something, but I just am having a hard time seeing it. I am trying to figure out if I need to accept that they are going to make out, and that this is normal, or should I try to be more intrusive. You have your hands full at this age.
Some thing of that of really desperate, but if you really love him, there's nothing to be ashamed of. Let's just also say the 18 year old would have very reasonable grounds to believe the 14 year old was 15. He's an adult, you're a child. Some will be stricter,while those who are able to reflect back,may show more leniency. If i offend any parents by asking i apologize in advance, thats not my intent.
That doesn't mean they will be banned from talking to members of the other sex, or going out to do fun things with boys and girls - but it does mean that I will operate out of knowledge and giving them a safe and healthy adult life and not operating out of fear and trying to keep them happy in the moment as teenagers so often want to feel. We dated for almost two years and somehow he let me get by those two years without so much as a kiss. Assuming you're comfortable, I would encourage her to go with a group of friends which include this boy, but I can see where that may not fly - while your daughter is an old 8th grader, the others are not. Chances are he's going to want sex sooner or later and that's something that you really should wait on also it'd technically make him a rapist so keep in mind the legal problems. From what you've said, he doesn't sound like a good guy to be getting in a relationship with.
It's entirely natural and nothing can be done of it. Just be sure that, whatever you choose to do, it is what's best for you. Give her a little room to move but not too much. My advise is let her go to this movie let her know that you trust her. And truthfully, you don't really come off as mature. Personally, i dont think 14 and a 19 year old isnt that bad. Around here the girl has to be at least 17.
This is also a chance for you to test his mettle. Also, looking 18 can be difficult. It's going to be a tough high wire act. There is the fact of the 18yr old being able to go out clubbing or drinking which could lead to the 14yr old being coerced into doing it as well. I wasn't psycologically or physically developed enough for it. You can even just do it digitally so it can be accessed by family later on. I have a 14 year old daughter, who is a great kid.
But, in a diplomatic way, if theres no sex then whats the problem? Punishments vary depending on the respective ages of both victim and offender. Unfortunately though i feel obliged to point out that just ''Dating'' going to movies, or even just hanging out at eachothers houses can be easily described as just friendship. I assumed the 14 year old was a girl because I am a girl who, at 14, would check out hot older guys. So I will not give you any advice, but if you don't mind, I will tell you what my 10 years as a middle school teacher and school counsellor taught me: I know that if a boy and girl want to spend time together, they will, parents permission or not, whether they go to the same school together or not, whether they live in the same city or not. They could go out in groups sometimes depending upon who, what, where, etc. But she admitted to that was a lie.
I've always wondered what was going on in the mind of the child and the adult to make them think it was a safe thing to do. I don't think legaly you'll have a problem as long as you don't become physical with her, including kissing and having sex, but understand that this girl is a child. By the time I was 17 I was involved with a man, not a boy, and I knew it was ok because my mom let me - and she told me she understood what it was like to be in love, and she didn't want to forbid me to see him because then I'd be sneaking out to see him anyway. The same applies here, I would not want a 19 year to go to jail. I guess all you can do is show him the info, about what laws he is breaking. The 19 year old that is interested in you is a pedophile. Knowing the boy's mother is not knowing the boy.